The D & T Martini

By: Marjie Martini

Have you ever wondered when the roller coaster in your life was going to stop? How much has to happen before you scream in anguish; "Please God, make it stop!"

How much drama and trauma can one person take?

When the shit hits the fan in your life, sometimes you need a coping device. This is why the D&T, or Drama & Trauma Martini, was created. There is no rhyme or reason as to why things happen in life. There are periods when you just cruise along smoothly, and then there are time when it’s just non-stop chaos no matter what you do. And all you really can do is pray for survival! This is when you know it’s D&T time!
This martini is created in two different mixtures, meant for two completely different situations. You can stir the "Drama" combination and sip it slowly while contemplating your current issue, or you can shake the "Trauma" mixture and shoot it, enabling you to absorb the shock factor so that you may function in a crisis situation. The Drama mixture is a blend of Rain organic vodka and Tanqueray gin, with a hint of vermouth and lemon. It is meant to be savoured, while sitting back and absorbing the drama of the situation that you are in. It is usually reserved for occurrences such as; relationship break-ups, job losses, physical injuries, or loss of home.
The Trauma mixture is a double blend of the Drama! Yes, I did say double! It is the only six ounce martini that I know of, and it is saved for the times in your life when you wind up sitting down on the floor in serious shock! These instances include; the death of a parent, your best friend lying in a coma, or your girlfriend trying to kill herself. These moments call for a swift shot of the Trauma to help you snap out of the shock and get you up off the floor and functioning again.

As the ball went down to conclude the end of 2008, I raised my martini glass and toasted 2009. My first thought was: "Thank God 2008 is over. Cheers to the end of the drama and trauma!" There is no doubt in anyone’s mind that 2008 was a year of chaos for many people. The stock market crashed, homes were lost, hurricanes raged, and fires and floods encompassed the globe. However, none of that mattered because, for me, the crises were happening a lot closer to home. We were not even ninety days into 2008 when I realized that my goals, wishes, and desires would have to go the way of the back burner. Why? Because my focus was my friends, and their drama and trauma was in full swing.
My role was to keep everyone together, healthy, and somewhat sane! It was my time to be supportive and offer true, unconditional love friendship love! The type of love that many believe may only be experienced with a partner or soul mate, but I have found it to be a bond of love that is actually stronger than that! The year officially began with lots of trauma! Firstly, with the death of a good friend a vibrant, fun loving woman in her late forties who loved martinis, life, and all the goodness! She went for a nap one afternoon and never awoke! Why? We will never know the reason!
More traumas followed with the death of my girlfriend’s father. Yup! Gotta love that one! I know it well. It has been ten years since my father’s passing and I still remember it like yesterday. The clincher in all of this was the trauma "phone call". It’s the call that sends your heart into your throat, makes your legs weak, and turns you into a crumpled mess on the kitchen floor. The call was to tell me that my best friend had been in a car accident and was in a coma! At this point, everything stopped, and I realized that nothing mattered to me, except life, love, and friends. I also realized that I was just going to write the year off!

With that said, life did not stop and the year continued. The trauma mellowed, but was replaced with lots of drama. Relationships were breaking up all over the place, my buddies were getting dumped, and my girlfriends were ending their engagements and getting married (planning a wedding is the ultimate drama thank God for martinis and bachelorette parties)! The drama was short lived, however, and by the fall, the trauma had returned, bringing with it a cancerous brain tumour, surgery and chemo! One girlfriend died in a plane crash while another one attempted suicide! But, life did not stop. I continued to work, while planning and running a political campaign for my best friend.
By November I was destroyed. Physically, I had never been so sick, and mentally, my brain was on overload. Emotionally, I was a mess, and spiritually, I could not even write. This was a tragedy! I had not created, consumed, or talked about martinis for months. Not even three weeks of sun and surf could repair me. So what happened? What fixed it all? Well, I started drinking again! It was December thirteenth when I opened my martini cabinet and put the D&T Martini together. After my first sip, I was kicking myself. Why hadn’t I created this recipe ten months ago?
On December twenty-seventh, a good friend and I sat drinking D&T’s and comparing notes on 2008. As I sipped and mulled over the past year, I could not remember the trauma, drama, and heartache. All I could think of was how grateful I was for the people in my life who were still alive. The ones that had left us behind had the privilege of going upstairs, and I was sure they loved it! Nothing seemed to matter at this point. I decided to dedicate the last three days of 2008 to living life! As my friend had put it,

"  Every day is a gift – not a given right!"

Well, the next few days proved to be hilarious, spontaneous, and inspiring. It all started with the thought of waking up and totally following my intuition. I planned to just go for it, and do whatever came to mind. No to-do lists and no trying to finish everything. I wanted total and complete freedom to choose whatever I wanted to do. What a concept! So what happened? An epiphany. A drama by definition is any situation or series of events having vivid, emotional, conflicting, or striking interest or results. What is really interesting is that in ancient Greek culture, dramas were of great importance and the Greeks took their entertainment very seriously. They used drama as a way of investigating the world that they lived in. The three genres of drama were comedic, satirical, and most importantly, tragic. In my case, I think my dramas covered all three genres at once.

A trauma by definition is a serious injury or shock to the body, as from violence or by accident. It may also be an emotional wound or shock that creates substantial, lasting damage to the psychological development of a person, often leading to neurosis; an event or situation that causes great distress and disruption. In my case, I think my traumas would have made anyone crazy.
So the epiphany? Drama and trauma are incredibly important in our lives. The dramas force us to learn and reflect on our lives, whilst the traumas cause disruptions and give us a sort of "wake-up call", and remind us to be grateful we are alive. After three days of waking up grateful (and alive!), I discovered what really mattered. Life and love!

How happy are you to wake up alive and healthy? Who cares if your body hurts! We are alive and we love! Who loves me? I do! My mother does! My dog does (the only reason is that I am his sole food provider)! But most importantly, my girlfriends love me. Through all the drama and trauma, our bond has been re-evaluated and reconfigured, all the while retaining its inner circle structure. What is important is to wake up every day, put your feet on the floor, and smile, because each day is really and truly a gift! You never know when it could end.

Conclusion:

The D&T is a martini that is reserved for the moments in your life when you feel that you should indulge in the drama. It’s for the times when you want to sit back and absorb what is occurring in your life, as well as for the moments when you require a kick to the head to snap you out of shock and help you function again. The key to the D&T Martini is that nothing ( and I mean nothing ) should ever make you forget how important it is to be grateful for each day of your life. When you sip or shoot the D&T, it is important to remember , as the last drop goes down, that each day is a gift and not a given right! Be
thankful that you are alive and enjoying this amazing martin

Intuitive Thoughts By Marjie Martini

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