The Ex Martini

By: Marjie Martini

Can you ever be good friends with an Ex? When you bump into an ex after a few years it can be interesting what occurs. Sometimes, your heart skips a beat and other times you feel complete relief and closure. However, regardless of how you feel when you see them, running into your past usually causes some kind of reflection. This is a martini that is also reflective; it combines the taste sensations of lemon and orange with the crazy twist of espresso. The Ex martini has a fantastic flavor; it is sweet and soulful.

One glorious sunny afternoon, I was sitting on my favorite martini patio. I had arrived early (which is unusual for me) to a gathering of the martini masters. This is my core group of friends, all of which are true martini lovers and connoisseurs. This group has spent many years in the food and beverage industry, shaking, tasting and spilling cocktails. It was always interesting when we gathered because I was sure to gain a great new recipe and some serious insight into life. As I was sitting patiently waiting for the masters, the waiter delivered to me the Ex martini. He stated that one of my friends had called and was going to be late but had requested that he serve us this cocktail. As I took my first sip, all that came into my mind was ‘Wow” this one is killer, as predicted I had scored a new recipe. I was told that the Ex martini was a blend of Citron Vodka, Triple Sec, Espresso Vodka, and lemon sour mix. It is served with sugared rim and a lemon wedge which makes it, truly stunning.

As the masters started to arrive, the martinis where served and the discussionof the uniqueness of the Ex martini grew. It was a new twist on the traditional lemon drop. The espresso vodka added a sweet tang to the lemon and made this martini delightfully smooth. It was the perfect martini for the sunny patio. We were half way through our Ex martini when one of the masters brought up the fact that in the past three days she had run into two of her ex-boyfriends. She could believe the relief that she felt by not ended up with either of them. She was thrilled that one was engaged to be married; her quote was

"he is a great guy just not the great guy for me!"

the other one was married with a baby and playing Mr. Mom. He was a nice guy but she felt for his wife who now had two children to look after. What amazed her about these encounters was that they had brought up memories from the past; she had been hurt deeply because both men had cheated on her. Somehow it did not matter, enough time had past that she only seemed to remember the good times and the valuable lessons that she had learned. She was happy that they had both found great partners and was delighted that she had not ended up with either of them. This discovery made me think, is it possible to be friends with an Ex?

This question caused a heated debate! There were a few men at the table who absolutely refused to even see their ex girlfriends. One stated that he was at a charity benefit with 300 people, saw his ex and had to leave because it ruined his night. Another man commented that once a woman became an ex, he wanted nothing more to do with her and that part of his life was over. Bitter, ya think?

When you see an ex, it does remind you of the life that you could have had; if you are missing that life then jealously can rear its ugly head. It is at this moment that you have to remember why you split up. People do things (like cheat) that are hurtful as a way of getting out of a relationship because deep down inside they want out but can not deal with the confrontation.

One of the other guys told a story about how his fiancé and ex girlfriend are friends. They all go out for dinner and party together, he thinks it is great. He is good friends with his ex and she was an important part of his life for many years, he wants to share those memories with his fiancé. I have witnessed these gatherings and it is not weird at all, the women honestly like one another. It only makes sense that these women would get along. We tend to date the same type of people, who share the same interests. I was impressed by my friend and his relationship with his ex. There is no arguing that when you break up, it is for a good reason and it is usually hurtful and sad. Have relationships evolved to a higher level when you can be friends with your ex? Or have we evolved to a higher level or forgiveness.

Conclusion:

The Ex martini is an unbelievable mixture of a lemon drop with the killer addition of espresso vodka. This is a martini that is that perfect balance of sweet and sour, it is a great starter martini but it does not create the desire to order another. When you run into an ex you are faced with the past, you can either dwell in the emotions of hurt and jealously or you can release them, forgive and let it go. When you have no desire to go another round with this person, then the encounter becomes a reminder of the path you are happy you did not take. This is when you can truly be friends. It is a similar to the Ex martini, as tasty as it is, this martini is sweet so you have no desire to go back and have another. When you have no attachment to an Ex lover or the Ex martini, that is when you know you have evolved. The Ex’s are both meant to be enjoyed just in passing.

Intuitive Thoughts By Marjie Martini

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