The
Blow off Martini
Ever
had one of those days where you feel like a total loser?
Have you ever felt like you have been kicked in the head?
When you get blown off by someone that you care about,
it can cause you to feel like a big pile of poo! Rejection
is never a pleasant experience and one of the worse forms
of rejection is the "Blow off." When this occurs
I have found a martini that will turn that frown upside
down and make life seem much better.
The Blow-off martini is tantalizing
blend of Scotch and Butterscotch Schnapps with a hint
of Vermouth. This is a martini that is rich with sweetness
and packs a punch. However, with the addition of some
cherries this is a martini that is also pretty and sometimes
a girl just needs her martini and herself to look and
feel beautiful.
Tonight, was an evening
where I needed some attention from a really handsome man?
So I called one of my best friends, J.R., and told him
I did not feel very pretty. It was promptly suggested
that I get sassed up and join him for a very special beverage;
he had a cure for my blahs. The thought of going out with
J.R., who is also incredibly attractive, did manage to
perk me up. As I donned a great pair of shoes and headed
out for a cocktail I had a feeling that this was just
what I needed. When I arrived at our favorite martini
and tapas bar, I was greeted with the warmest hug and
kiss. It felt so nice to be wrapped up in his strong arms;
I relaxed knowing that he was going to care of me this
evening. J.R. ordered our martinis, then he asked me
“What
has caused the most beautiful lady I know, to be so sad?”
I replied
with a heavy sigh, "I got the blow off from the boyfriend.""Unbelievable,
he must be crazy!" J.R. stated. That was when our
martinis arrived and everything started to get better.
As I took my first taste of this martini, I was surprised
by the rich smoothness of butterscotch and the fulfilling
finish of the scotch. It was an intriguing blend of flavors
and very appropriate because we both love to drink scotch.
After, a few sips he said "Okay, tell me what happened."
Painstakingly I began to retell my blow-off story. This
was difficult because I was in a state of confusion. For
several months I had been dating this great guy, who initially
seemed really into me. However, over the past few weeks
I had experienced his aloofness. Also, I had received
the blow-off signals: unreturned phone calls, emails and
im’s, the hesitation to commit to future trips and
of course the cancellation of dates.
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But, he kept saying
that he was into me and he seemed unwilling to let me
go. After a blown off date or unreturned phone call,
I would receive the "I’m sorry"or "Miss
you" message but there was no mention of rescheduling
or making it up to me. I was perplexed because his actions
were in contradiction of his words. I could not decide
if this behavior was the result of bad time management,
work stress, or was he double dipping (dating other
women). I had no idea, what had gone wrong? If he was
not interested anymore, why wouldn’t he just tell
me? Why the Blow-off?
J.R. listened intently,
wiped my tears and just kept ordering martinis. After
I finished telling him my tale of woos, he shed some
insight into the situation. J.R. stated, generally,
all men will do the blow-off because they hate confrontation
and it is just easier to avoid a situation. Men are
not good at dealing with situations like this. J.R.
concluded that I was not technically getting the "Blow-off"
but I was in fact dating a freak’in loser. He
commented that any guy who can’t figure out that
going out with a hot chick is more important than his
buddies, work and other crap, is an idiot, and if he
was double dipping, then he was missing out on one incredible
women, therefore he was not worthy of my time or affection.
His suggestion was to return the blow-off signals with
simply being unavailable. If this guy was interested,
he would step up to the plate and make more effort and
if he didn’t then I was free to shop elsewhere
for my loving. "Remember", J.R. stated "You,
of the women I know, have men lined up at your door"!
Instantly I felt better, I was not sure if it was the
martinis or J.R. reminding me that I am special and
should not be tolerating poor behavior. Maybe it was
just spending the evening with a great guy friend who
absolutely adored me. As I kissed J.R. goodnight, I
realized how lucky I was to have such a fabulous friend
and how insightful it was to have a guys perspective
on the blow-off.
Conclusion:
The Blow-off martini
is incredibly different. The combination of scotch and
butterscotch schnapps is so remarkable that it is a
martini everyone has to try. The best part of this martini
is the lingering finish of scotch with a hint of sweetness
and of course, cherries. When you experience the blow-off
signals remember that any person who can not make the
effort to return a phone call or commit to spending
time with you, is a person that is not worthy of being
in your life. The only Blow-off you should have in your
life is the martini.
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