The
Dazed & Infused Martini
Have
you ever heard of something that makes your jaw drop?
Something that was so unbelievable that you walked away
completely stunned. This was an evening where I was in
total and complete shock. I really needed a martini because
no matter how hard I tried to understand the information
that I had just been given it just did not register with
me. I was sitting at my usual martini bar when my buddy
who is the bartender commented that I looked completely
perplexed. I was in a state of bewilderment! Well he had
the perfect cure for that.
The Dazed and Infused
martini is very unique. It requires some serious effort
to make this one, but oh boy is it worth it. It is a combination
of vodka infused with the flavors of vanilla, macadamia
nuts and cinnamon and then topped off with Bailey’s.
So many flavors with all the punch of an almost straight
vodka martini. On visual inspection of this martini I
knew that it was going to be impossible not to like it,
mainly because it was garnished with caramelized sugar.
Yum, Yum! When I took my first sip I realized that this
martini was one in a million and that maybe this was just
the drink I needed to clear away my confusion. My taste
buds where freaking out! The vanilla and macadamia nut
was balanced with the cinnamon so that it was not too
sweet but just luscious. After a few sips I started to
tell my buddy about the source of my confusion. I had
just found out that day of not one but two women who had
been in long term relationships and who had not had sex
in over 5 years. "What?" was his answer? "Yes!'
I said. The wildest part of the story was that one of
these women had not had sex with her boyfriend for 7 years
and was still a virgin. The boyfriend finally left her
for another man.
“So
she was 28 years old, single and a virgin!”
Unbelievable!
"Let me at her, I will fix that situation in a no
time!" chuckled my bartender. The other woman was
in the sexual prime of her mid 30’s and had not
been sexually active with her boyfriend in 5 years. The
first few years the sex had been fine but now it had been
so long that it was not even discussed. How does this
happen was my question?
How
does a woman or man go without sex for so long? Are we
not animals? Do we not need sex to survive? Is it not
part of our primal instinct? How can you love someone,
sleep beside them, be affectionate and not have sex? This
is just crazy! The other question is why you would stay
in a relationship if this was happening! Now I realize
that every relationship goes through periods when the
sex is low, that is only natural. Life factors take over;
work stress, children, post pregnancy hormones and sometimes
just over committing to everyone can leave no time or
energy left for each other and sex. But how does low sex
become no sex and how does no sex go on for years?
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