Martinis at Midnight

The Dirty Gin Martini

The Dirty Gin Martini

As always insight comes to me in the latest hour of the evening. This particular evening I was out with my very good (non-sexual) friend, who just happens to be male. Yes, believe it or not a man and women can have a great friendship without it being sexual. Now this buddy of mine has been a friend for many years and he is a great supporter of the martini, so he decided that I needed to get out of the truity fruity chick martinis and into something that is more manly. I was not one to argue about getting into anything more masculine.

The adventure this evening was into the realms of the Dirty Gin martini. I was very resistant because I am not the biggest fan of gin. Flashback: everyone remembers their first bad alcoholic experience where they drank something weird usually stolen from there parents liquor cabinet and then they spent the rest of the evening worshiping the ivory porcelain god. For some reason this alcohol can not be revisited, well my flashback is cheap gin. I explained this to my buddy but he told me to get over it and that cheap gin would not be entering into this martini. So I decided to embrace my masculinity and step up to the Dirty Gin martini.

I watched eagerly as the bartender made the martini that my buddy told me was going to be my next great love. This concoction was very simple really, Bombay Sapphire gin (because according to my buddy it is the best) with some vermouth, of course. The always wonderful olives came next and the part that makes it dirty was the addition of just a bit of olive juice. This one is shaken which gives it a hazy look as it is poured into the martini glass. As I took my first tentative sip I realized that this was no girlie fruity martini this was a man’s martini: strong and stiff, just the way I like them!! The addition of the olive juice gave this martini that nasty edge that I love. This martini was definitely a sipping martini, nothing to rush on this one. About half way through the Dirty Gin I was just starting to relax and a very interesting question came up.

“What is the true definition of a Bootie Call?”

We came up with the definition that a true bootie call is a person that you call, usually later in the evening with the soul purpose of getting laid and that this is a person that you have no emotional attachment to and that there are no expectations the next day because you both agree that it is just sex. The bootie call is slightly different from the one night stand, just like the Dirty Gin martini is different from the Classic Gin martini, the bootie call happens on a semi-regular basis and the sex is good, where the sex on a one night stand happens once and is very rarely good, average at best if you’re lucky.

 

The debate started however when my buddy stated that women can not have sex without getting emotionally attached. Now I agreed with him but I had just recently read a survey that stated that 25% of women can have sex without emotional attachment, where 95% of men can have sex without emotional attachment. My buddy swears that no women can have sex and be emotionally unattached, with the exception of me. I argued this adamantly, I stated that the older a women got the more secure she is in her sexuality and the more she can use a man just for sex. This happens to most women in their mid 30’s. My buddy only dates the under 25 year old girls, so he had never experienced a sexually secure woman. He was not impressed by this comment and ordered another martini, so that he could make his point.
His point was that men get attached to women, not by sex; they get attached to the chase. Men get attached to whether or not they can capture this creature. It is not until they think they have captured her do they let their emotions become involved. Before that they wear their armour to protect themselves from potential rejection. Men get attached when they are being challenged in more than one dimension of the chase.

Women put in their emotions when they have sex in the hopes that this guy will be the one and that is why women can not handle having the bootie call because they are always hoping that it will become more. I had to agree that he had a very good point and that most women always want more from the bootie call and that I had known several friends that had gotten hurt playing the bootie call game. I had even heard of the worst bootie call ever, when a woman had called her regular bootie for some action and got invited over, when she arrived the guy never answered the door even though his dog was barking non stop. Unbelievable! My buddy was speechless at that one; needless to say this woman has never dabbled in the bootie call again.

Conclusion:

I will always let a man know when he is right and in this case my buddy was right, the Dirty Gin martini is my next love. It is stiff and strong like how a woman has to be if she is going to partake in the bootie call. A woman can not get emotionally attached to this scenario. The Dirty Gin has that nasty edge just like the bootie call, we all know it could get ugly but it is fun to play with fire sometimes. The debate about whether men and women can have sex without getting emotionally attached well that will forever remain a hazy mystery just like the haziness of the Dirty Gin martini.

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